Increasingly, we are becoming aware of the connection between the way we think and our levels of happiness and well-being.
The Dalai Lama reminds us that there is no need to become bogged down by a problem or situation. That it makes more sense to spend energy focusing on finding a solution, or if it cannot be resolved, accepting that you cannot do anything about it at this time and letting go of the worry.
“This formula, of course, implies directly confronting the problem and taking a realistic view. Otherwise you will be unable to find out whether or not there is a resolution to the problem,” he says.
For many of us, in these fast-paced modern times, this is easier said than done. We have busy schedules and juggle family life with challenging careers, which often leads to soaring stress levels.
The Dalai Lama encourages us to draw on the strength of character that he believes all human beings possess. “So long as we remember that we have this marvelous gift of human intelligence and a capacity to develop determination and use it in positive ways, we will preserve our underlying mental health.”
“This recognition can act as a mechanism that enables us to deal with any difficulty, no matter what situation we are facing, without losing hope or sinking into feelings of low self-esteem.”
Happiness Through Cultivating Compassion
When we are stressed or depressed, our sense of inner peace is disrupted by disturbing emotions. Negative thoughts and feelings often reflect an uncompassionate state of mind which inevitably undermines our well-being and happiness.
“We become oblivious to the impact our actions have on others: negative emotions are thus the cause of our destructive behavior both toward others and to ourselves.”
The Dalai Lama believes that one of the mind’s most marvelous qualities is that it can be transformed and that any person who attempts to overcome their disturbing emotions will achieve a sense of inner peace, becoming more disciplined and positive in their reactions. “And I am sure they will find their own sense of happiness grow as they contribute to the greater happiness of others.”
He reminds us to develop sincere motivation, on the basis of kindness, compassion, and respect because we all share a common desire to be happy and to avoid stress and suffering. The Dalai Lama believes that basic humanity binds us all together.
“Whenever I have the opportunity, I try to draw people's attention to what as members of the human family we have in common and the deeply interconnected nature of our existence and welfare,” he says.
Sources:
- Tenzin Gyatso; The Fourteenth Dalai Lama of Tibet, 'Countering Stress and Depression', DalaiLama.com, Accessed 21st October 2011.
- HH Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler. 'The Art of Happiness’. Hodder and Stoughton, 1999.
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